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How can I stop trying to prove myself? I’m so tired of it! Sunday, January 4, 2015 - Of course you’re tired of it. It’s EXHAUSTING trying to prove yourself all the time. You likely feel restless, anxious, and most of the time ineffective as you try to ‘earn’ your worthiness (something that can’t be earned) and as you seek acceptability (something you already have). The way out is to claim your INHERENT
I am struggling with a decision. There’s a situation I am in and much about it feels so unhealthly. But I don’t want to overreact and make a change impulsively. How do I know what the right thing is to do? Sunday, August 24, 2014 - The way I see it, if you don’t know with relative clarity what the ‘right’ thing is (right for YOU, that is) to do, it’s probably best not to make any big decisions right now. Focus instead on doing some more ‘noticing’. Notice what’s coming up for you. Notice what you’re telling yourself. Notice what
Kingsley, I hear what you say about living life my own way but it just doesn’t seem possible. How do I get past that feeling? Tuesday, April 22, 2014 - I completely hear what you’re saying. Living life the way one chooses can seem utterly impossible and improbable – especially when we have been living life everyone else’s way for so darn long! The key is to entertain the possibility that the reason authentic living seems so unlikely, so out of reach, is that we
People tell me to ‘live in the moment’ but what does that even mean? Wednesday, August 14, 2013 - Living in the moment is about putting your energy where your power is. It’s about planting your feet in the here and now. It’s about making a decision to protect and preserve your present – the one and only place where you’ll find your power, purpose and potential. When you get into regret and resentmemt,
How can I be less quick to react? Monday, May 27, 2013 - I get asked this kind of question quite often and to a large degree, the answer is all about time and space. In other words, it’s about carving out some time and space between the things that trigger you and how you respond. Stop, pause and actually think about how you want to show up.